"Timely and necessary...This book is not only a warning. It
is an opportunity. An opportunity to live out the gospel we so
passionately proclaim. And it starts with
listening."—J.D. Greear, President of the Southern
Time’s Up: Addressing the Unspoken Crisis in the Church
We like to think the church is a haven for the hurting. But what happens when it’s not?
Author and advocate Mary DeMuth urges the church she loves to rise up and face the evil of sexual abuse and harassment with candor and empathy. Based on research and survivors’ stories, along with fierce fidelity to Scripture, DeMuth unpacks the church’s response to sexual violence and provides a healthy framework for the church to become a haven of healing instead of an institution of judgment.
In the throes of the #MeToo movement, our response as Christians is vital. God beckons us to be good Samaritans to those facing trauma and brokenness in the aftermath of abuse and provide safe spaces to heal. DeMuth advocates for a culture of honesty and listening and calls on the church to enter the places where people are hurting. In the circle of that kind of empathetic #WeToo community, the church must become what it’s meant to be—a place of justice and healing for everyone.
“Too many of our faith communities are not safe places for
children and vulnerable people, and they are not safe spaces for
the wounded. As a survivor, respected advocate, and prolific writer
who loves Jesus and His bride, my dear friend Mary shares why and
how to begin the journey of transforming the church into a
community that protects the vulnerable and loves the wounded. This
book is an invaluable resource that is so needed by today’s church.
—Boz Tchividjian, attorney, law professor, founder and executive director of GRACE
“Mary DeMuth’s gripping and transparent narrative of her own
sexual abuse jolts the reader’s emotions and ignites the
Christian’s mind. After reading DeMuth’s book, you’ll be convinced
that we too must never again be silent in the face of abuse.”
—Wade Burleson, author, historian, pastor
“The church must do better when it comes to victims of abuse.
This call comes not from a critic or a cynic but a lover of the
church, an active member of a community of faith. Mary DeMuth’s
book does not merely point out the problems but also explains
practical steps for the way forward. If it follows Mary’s advice,
the church will become a place of healing for the wounded and
—Glenn R. Kreider, professor of theological studies, Dallas Theological Seminary
“Mary Demuth has written a courageous book about sexual abuse.
She rightly calls out churches for their complicity and complete
failure to deal with the scourge of sexual violence. She also
provides practical advice on what can be done and points to a
greater future still to come. This book is necessary reading for
anyone in Christian leadership.”
—Rev. Dr. Michael F. Bird, academic dean, Ridley College in Melbourne, Australia
“We Too is an essential guide to understanding the
life-altering trauma of sexual violence. Grounded in biblical
truth, sociological research, and survivor stories, this
comprehensive book will help readers wisely navigate the complex
relationship between grace and truth, justice and forgiveness.
Although I grieve that such a book is necessary, I thank God that
Mary DeMuth has written it.”
—Jen Pollock Michel, author of Surprised by Paradox
“Mary DeMuth’s We Too is a timely gift to the church.
With compassion and vulnerability, she opens a door into the heart,
mind, and soul of sexual abuse survivors. With expertise and
clarity, she instructs us in responding to sexual abuse and loving
survivors. If every church leader and member took this book to
heart, the church would be a safe and healthier place.”
—Eric Schumacher, pastor, author, and songwriter
“In We Too, author Mary DeMuth is at her best. She speaks
with the credibility of a survivor and as a well-informed expert.
Her book helps readers assure that both their interpersonal
relationships and faith communities are places of human
flourishing. The church has been needing this resource.”
—Dr. Sandra Glahn, professor and coauthor of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
“I am grateful for Mary’s life and her voice. We in the body of
Christ need her. Her voice, along with many others, is the voice of
our God calling his people into the light of truth and grace; to
comfort the brokenhearted and release the captives. Read this book.
Let it get inside you. Let it change you.”
—Diane Langberg, Ph.D., psychologist
Mary DeMuth is a writer and speaker who loves to help people live re-storied lives. Author of more than 30 Christian living books. Mary speaks around the country and the world and is the host of the popular daily podcast Pray Every Day, where she prays for you every day of the year. She is the wife of Patrick and the mom of three adult children, currently living in Texas. MaryDeMuth.com