Compassion without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth
Loving, Biblical Answers on Homosexuality
In the next year at least one of these things will happen
in your life:
• A family member will come out of the closet and expect you to be
okay with it.
• Your elementary-age child's curriculum will discuss LGBT
families.
• Your company will talk about building a tolerant workplace for
LGBT co-workers.
• Your college-age child will tell you your view on homosexuality
is bigoted.
Are you ready?
In their role as pastors, Adam Barr and Ron Citlau have seen how
this issue can tear apart families, friendships, and even churches.
In this book they combine biblical answers with practical,
real-world advice on how to think about and discuss this issue with
those you care about. They also tell the story of Ron's personal
journey from same-sex attraction and sexual brokenness to
healing.
Truth does not preclude kindness--and a good dose of humility is
necessary to love our neighbors. With sensitivity and winsomeness,
this book will offer an honest but inviting message to readers: We
are all in need of the healing that can only come from the truth of
the gospel.
From the Back Cover
Loving, Biblical Answers on Homosexuality
In the next year at least one of these things will happen
in your life:
• A family member will come out of the closet and expect you to be
okay with it.
• Your elementary-age child's curriculum will discuss LGBT
families.
• Your company will talk about building a tolerant workplace for
LGBT co-workers.
• Your college-age child will tell you your view on homosexuality
is bigoted.
Are you ready?
In their role as pastors, Adam Barr and Ron Citlau have seen how
this issue can tear apart families, friendships, and even churches.
In this book they combine biblical answers with practical,
real-world advice on how to think about and discuss this issue with
those you care about. They also tell the story of Ron's personal
journey from same-sex attraction and sexual brokenness to
healing.
Truth does not preclude kindness--and a good dose of humility is
necessary to love our neighbors. With sensitivity and winsomeness,
this book will offer an honest but inviting message to readers: We
are all in need of the healing that can only come from the truth of
the gospel.
Visit CompassionWithoutCompromise.com for more information.
"I can't imagine any Christian not being helped by this
book. . . . If you are looking for a resource that
will help you think about the issue of homosexuality with
unflinching truth and with sincere grace, this is a great place to
start."--from the Foreword by Kevin DeYoung
"These pastors/authors equip us to love persons with same-sex
attraction well. Born of life in the real world, their efforts are
profound yet conveyed with a light touch that makes a tough subject
an enjoyable read."--Andrew Comiskey, founder/executive director,
Desert Stream/Living Waters Ministries
"Compassion Without Compromise seeks to be candid help
on a difficult topic: the complex variations of modern sexual
brokenness. You may cheer one page and jeer another.
But, having heard the mind of two pastors who wrestle honestly
with sexual issues every day, at least you will find help to
make up your own mind."--Dr. Todd Hunter, Anglican bishop, pastor
of Holy Trinity Anglican Church, and author of Our Favorite
Sins
"Both the church and culture are being ripped apart by the
homosexuality issue. Adam and Ron have given us a most important
discussion of the issue that is biblical, personal, and practical.
I know of no other work that encompasses all three
approaches."--Charles Simpson, author, Bible teacher, motivational
speaker, and pastor
Top Highlights
“We believe it is part of the Bible, but we wonder how it continues to apply to us. After all, Jesus brought us salvation by grace, through faith alone. Gentiles don’t have to walk through the doorway of Judaism to become disciples of Jesus (see Acts 15).” (source)
“It is hard to walk with the reality of the same-sex struggle. But that is exactly the point. Each person who seeks to follow Jesus, if they actually try to do it, will find it quite hard. The demands of the gospel are harsh: Anyone who would follow him must die to self—that is, to their self-desire, their self-will. So the notion that the gospel doesn’t work for those who struggle with same-sex desire is simply not true. There are countless examples of men and women who have managed their brokenness and had great victory, even in the midst of great struggle and pain. Truth be told, it doesn’t work if you’re not willing to take the medicine. The medicine is strong. The cure is costly. But make no mistake: What Christ did on the cross works for every man and woman—no matter the ailment.” (source)
“We are all writing a story with our lives, so when we come to the text of Scripture, we want to understand, ‘What kind of story will my life become if I allow this book to guide me?’ When Scripture’s message confronts and challenges us, when it speaks an uncomfortable truth, part of us is facing a hard choice: Am I willing to let the Bible rewrite my story, or will I attempt to rewrite the Bible?” (source)
“Throughout Scripture, sin is portrayed as an effort to live as if God doesn’t matter. In fact, it is portrayed as an effort to be like little gods. Sin, biblically speaking, is turning one’s back on God, the God who wants us to live in a face-to-face relationship with him.” (source)
Product Details
- Title : Compassion without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth
- Authors:
- Barr, Adam T.
- Citlau, Ron
- DeYoung, Kevin
- Publisher: Bethany House
- Publication Date: 2014
- ISBN: 9781441264763
Adam T. Barr (MDiv, Western Theological Seminary, ThM,
Trinity Evangelical Divinity School) serves as senior pastor at
Peace Church in Grand Rapids, Michigan. He is the president and
founder of Borderlands, a worldview ministry, and serves on the
board of RCA Integrity, a renewal movement in the Reformed Church
in America. Adam lives with his wife, Jennifer, and four sons in
Middleville, Michigan.
Ron Citlau (MDiv, Western Theological Seminary) is the lead
pastor of Calvary Church near Chicago. Ron helped produce
curriculum on sexual healing now used by Desert Stream Ministries
in hundreds of churches throughout the country. Ron lives with his
wife, Amy, in Crown Point, Indiana.