SMART Love: How Improving Your Emotional Intelligence Will Transform Your Marriage

The principles of emotional intelligence have long been applied to the business world with remarkable results. But what would happen if they were applied to that most important of relationships--marriage?

SMART Love is a system for understanding emotions--both your own and your spouse's--managing those emotions, and walking hand in hand through those situations when emotions run high. Drs. David and Jan Stoop break the book into five sections:

- Self-awareness of your emotions
- Managing your emotions
- Accountability to yourself, your spouse, and others
- Reading the other person's emotions
- Together in the land of emotions

A SMART Love inventory helps readers see where they are strong and where they need improvement, and each section includes action steps couples can take to implement what they've learned. Perfect for couples' counseling, small groups, and anyone who wants to connect with their spouse more deeply.

From the Back Cover

"Great marriages are both art and science. Dave and Jan Stoop have integrated both in a highly effective system, using the latest neuroscience, to bring couples more intimacy and happiness. Great concepts and very workable skills. I highly recommend this book."--John Townsend, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries; founder of the Townsend Institute of Leadership and Counseling


What would happen if you applied the game-changing principles of emotional intelligence to your most important relationship?

SMART Love is a system for understanding both your own and your spouse's emotions, managing those emotions, and walking hand in hand through situations when emotions run high. Through personal inventories, you'll discover where you are strong and where you need improvement, and each section includes practical action steps you and your spouse can take to implement what you've learned.

"Get ready to improve your love IQ. In this remarkable book, Dave and Jan Stoop give all of us the practical steps for learning how to love SMART. Follow their proven guidance and your love life will never be the same."--Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, New York Times bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

"In the forest of books on marriage relationships, SMART Love stands tall. No pie-in-the-sky platitudes or superficial solutions, but wise counsel that can make an immediate difference in your marriage."--Gary J. Oliver, ThM, PhD, executive director of the Center for Healthy Relationships; professor of psychology and practical theology at John Brown University; coauthor of Mad About Us

Dr. David Stoop is the founder and director of the Center for Family Therapy and is a cohost of the nationally syndicated New Life Live! radio and TV program. He is the author of more than thirty books, including Forgiving What You'll Never Forget and Rethink How You Think. Dr. Jan Stoop is a counselor, author, and seminar speaker. Together the Stoops are coauthors of Just Us: Finding Intimacy with God and Each Other and When Couples Pray Together. They lead seminars and retreats on topics such as marital relationships, men's issues, fathering, and forgiveness. Married for more than fifty years, they live in California. Learn more at www.drstoop.com.