The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
For anyone who is dating or thinking about marriage, pastor and bestselling author Andy Stanley shares practical, uncensored wisdom on avoiding mistakes in the present to help you avoid regrets in the future.
Single? Looking for the "right person"? Convinced that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right?" Think again.
In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and pitfalls associated with dating in the twenty-first century. This guide takes a fresh approach to dating and love in the modern era by turning the search for "the one" back onto the searcher, challenging you to ask yourself tough questions like:
- Am I the person that the person I'm looking for is looking for?
- Are the Bible's teachings about women relevant today?
- If sex is only physical, why is the pain of sexual sin so deep?
As you dig deep into Stanley's answers, you'll be equipped and empowered to step up and set a new standard for this generation by uncovering the things that create trouble in dating relationships and creating better habits now that will pay off later as you dive into married life.
Praise for The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating:
"No one speaks more powerfully and practically into the issues of dating and marriage in the twenty-first century than Andy Stanley. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking to navigate challenging relationship waters and survive in a culture that's confused and complex. Straightforward. Graceful. Truthful. Needed." --Louie Giglio, Passion City Church, Passion Conferences
"Andy's new rules for love, sex, and dating are so wise, so compelling, so clear that I want every single friend I have to read this book, and I want to save a couple copies for my boys, so they can read it in a decade or so." --Shauna Niequist, author of I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet
"Having experienced more than my fair share of destructive, harmful dating relationships, I can authoritatively say that Andy's views on the matter are clear and convicting. Andy so beautifully conveys the message of the unfathomable grace of God, leaving you free to turn a leaf and begin a new dating chapter, making better decisions and living with fewer regrets." —Maggie Bridges, Miss Georgia 2014
Top Highlights
“You are sexually compatible with far more people than you are relationally compatible with.” (source)
“Most people’s greatest regrets involve something sexual. When anyone begins a conversation with, ‘I want to tell you something that I’ve never told anyone before,’ it’s always sexual. It’s never, ‘I was at the mall and I backed my car into the car across the parking lot and I didn’t leave a note.’ Why is that? Why is there an unparalleled level of shame associated with inappropriate sexual behavior? Why do people carry sexual secrets so long?” (source)
“Not only is sex not the litmus test for relational compatibility, it actually inhibits and distracts from relational development. Why? Because sex has the capacity to camouflage an endless list of relational deficiencies and dysfunctions. Romance overpowers objectivity, which will work to your advantage in marriage. But before marriage, a lack of objectivity is dangerous. Sex distorts positive and negative traits in a partner.” (source)
“In two sentences he says what it took me the entire previous chapter to explain. When we ignore God’s relational purpose for sex . . . when we rip sex out of its divinely designed relational context . . . we hurt ourselves. Even when there are no physical consequences, we hurt ourselves.” (source)
“Sexual purity isn’t an idea whose time has come and gone. Sexual purity is a strategy. It’s an investment in your happiness and the happiness of your future partner. Why? Because purity now paves the way to intimacy later.” (source)
Product Details
- Title : The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
- Author: Stanley, Andy
- Publisher: Zondervan
- Publication Date: 2015
- ISBN: 9780310342205