Sex and the Single Girl
A study on sex that goes beyond "just don't do it."
Sexuality is a hot topic these days, and opinions are all over the place. A resource offering simple “do’s and don’ts” won’t cut it. Sex and the Single Girl fills the gap by providing a broader, more comprehensive understanding of what it means to honor God with our sexuality. This resource will equip single women to understand their sexuality, trust the Lord for redemption and healing, and stand against the cultural trends that marginalize and compromise God’s design for sex.
Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, cofounder of Authentic Intimacy, and author of several popular books, including 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy. She has devoted the last five years to equipping women with God’s truth about sexuality, and here she drives home the truth that every sexual choice is also a spiritual choice.
The six-week study is broken down into five days for each week, covering:
- Why Sexuality Matters: The connection between spirituality and sexuality
- Embracing a Grand Design: God’s design and the beauty of living according to His wisdom.
- Sexuality and Your Character: How sexuality is part of worship and Christian identity.
- Sexual Boundaries: A very practical chapter providing a biblical grid for matters like masturbation, oral sex, and how far is too far to go in a dating relationship.
- Battling Temptation: A peak at “the enemy’s playbook,” helping women anticipate, prepare for, and stand against sexual temptation.
- Restoring Intimacy with God: How God can tear down the wall of sexual sin, shame, and confusion through forgiveness and redemption.
This study has been tested through pilot groups with college women and other 20somethings. Revisedaccording to their feedback, it is primed and ready to help any single woman think biblically about sexuality, live accordingly, and experience the joy and freedom of doing so.
Sex and the Single Girl is especially relevant today. One of the greatest threats to the modern church and emerging adults is the distortion of sexual design. Study after study has documented the proliferation of porn use (among both men and women), sexual exploitation on college campuses, experimentation with homosexuality and bi-sexuality, and the acceptability of multiple sexual partners. The average single Christian has received very little teaching on the purpose of sexuality, and a simple “just wait until you’re married” approach won’t cut it. Christian singles need to be equipped with a biblical worldview of sexuality and practical tools for talking it out.
This study, which Slattery created with two women familiar with curriculum development, is ideal for college campuses and small groups. It will prompt discussions on practical topics like sexual temptation, sexual conduct, and responding to cultural thinking on gender issues and sexual autonomy. It is designed to challenge women to examine the assumptions underlying their sexual behaviors and beliefs. The ultimate goal of this resource is to introduce women to an intimate relationship with God who cares about every aspect of her life.
Top Highlights
“Oswald Chambers claimed that all sin is rooted in the suspicion that God is not really good—that He is holding out on us.” (source)
Sex and the Single Girl is the best resource I know of how to embrace the idea that women are sexual, but not stay stuck in delayed longings or desires we don’t know what to do with. Juli Slattery has created a resource that will help you walk through your sexuality as God intends, without leaving you feeling like you are left alone to figure things out on your own. As we are living in a sexually confused culture, let Juli be your mentor and guide.
Esther Fleece
Speaker, author of No More Faking Fine
In a world where sex is ubiquitous, I don’t think we’re even really talking about it. Not real sex, anyway. This book will fuel the conversation. Every college Bible study group and every singles group should be using this fantastic book to enlighten women about the purpose and practices of sex. Juli creates an amazing, conversational atmosphere with this study that will fuel transparent and soul-healing conversations among single women. She’s unafraid to speak black-and-white truth. Equally as important, she admits that there are some gray areas when it comes to truth about sex. Dive in and be a part of the conversation.
Dannah Gresh
Author And the Bride Wore White and What Are You Waiting For?
In a generation of young women who are struggling to understand God’s design for sexuality, this book is a must-read. Seriously—every young woman needs to get her hands on a copy of Sex and the Single Girl. This powerful resource is biblical, practical, down-to-earth, and incredibly easy to read. It will transform your perspective on sexuality and get you excited about God’s beautiful design.
Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird
Founders of GirlDefined Ministries
Authors of Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity
Young women today are bombarded by a sexual message that will not give them the intimacy they long for. If they step onto a college campus prepped only with a “sex is wrong” mindset, they won’t make it. In order to face the immense pressure, they must be convinced that there is something better out there than what the culture offers. Thank you, Juli, for providing single women with the knowledge and understanding to help them hold out for God’s best. This is a must-read for every college student.
Kim Vollendorf
Regional leader, StuMo Campus ministry
Author of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One (January 2018)
Juli’s study is not a list of dos and don’ts, but an invitation to consider what the Bible says about sexuality and draw near to the loving God who created us to be sexual beings. Regardless of your past, you are welcome here! As a woman who disciples younger women, I appreciate the clarity and hope with which Juli encourages a life of sexual integrity. Sex and the Single Girl is a helpful and encouraging guide for exploring truth about sexuality.
Lisa Sandquist
Codirector of The Navigators Global Student Program
Sex and the Single Girl is an invaluable resource for women whether single, dating, or engaged (and even married)! Christian women on college campuses are desperate for a resource like this to serve as a framework for understanding and engaging with our sexuality. We cannot ignore that we are sexual beings. Sex and the Single Girl gives permission for us to know ourselves as such. As a Christian woman in ministry, I am often unsatisfied with how we engage this topic and I am looking for ways to support and guide my students as they navigate their sexuality. This book offers these opportunities. I’m incredibly thankful.
Sarah Youssef
Residence Supervisor
Product Details
- Title : Sex and the Single Girl
- Authors:
- Slattery, Dr. Juli
- Ludvigson, Abby
- Nugteren, Chelsey
- Publisher: Moody Publishers
- Publication Date: 2017
- ISBN: 9780802496324